An increasing number of women are becoming pregnant in their late 30s.Our expert provides insights and tips on how to have a healthy offspring Aishwarya Rai is not the only one who wants to have a baby at the age of 37.A whole lot of working women in the city are opting to have babies only after they have turned 35.The trend is on the rise and it is evident at gynaecologist Dr Duru Shahs clinic."I cant put a specific number to it,but off late I handle more cases of pregnant women in their late 30s and 40s,compared to what I did five years ago.The cases are specific to working women,"she says.
Pregnancy acts like a bump in the middle of a career path for an ambitious woman,whether she is an actor,business woman or a corporate professional.As a result,the marriageable age for a lot of city women has gone up from 26-28 to 34-35 years.Shah says,"It makes it difficult for her to get to the top in time.When they reach there,they can then think about the baby."
However there is a slight risk involved when women decide to have babies at an older age.As the body clock keeps ticking,the chance of having healthy babies reduces with every passing year.According to Shah,a baby girl has two million eggs in the womb.By the time she is born,she loses a million of them.The other one million lie dormant till the time she reaches puberty.After puberty,a girl loses 20-25 eggs per menstrual cycle.The healthiest of the eggs are released first till the young age of 30.As the unhealthy ones are reserved for later years,complications could arise with the mother or the baby during pregnancy.On an average,a woman hits menopause by 47-50 years.
Aparna Deven Verma,42 years,got married four years ago.With everybody else getting married in her circle,there was a lot of pressure on her from her peers and family to get married in her 20s.At times she even felt left out.But she was not ready for it.She wanted to start her own garments business and see it grow."I was not ready for marriage,"she says."I had a dream to accomplish.If I got married and had kids early,I dont think I would have done justice to my role as a wife and mother."Verma had her first child,a baby boy,at 39,and her second child,a baby girl,two years later.She had normal deliveries without complications.
PROS
FINANCIAL STABILITY
Having had the time to establish herself in her career,Verma was financially well off to have babies and offer them a good upbringing.She was less concerned with her own needs and could devote the money entirely to her children."To have a baby is a big decision for a younger couple who are mid-way in their career,"she says."With rising expenses,it means they will have to curtail on their own needs to bring up a child.I never had such issues."
EMOTIONAL MATURITY
Verma got married to a person who she knew for 15 years."I had seen the world and grown as a person,"she says.When many younger couples get divorced due to differences,she had developed good compatibility with her husband."We
knew each other in all sorts of circumstances.This provided a solid
ground to raise a family,"she adds.
DEVOTED MOTHER
Settled in her career,Verma doesnt
feel any other pressure that will pull her away from giving full attention to her children."I fell very comfortable with motherhood.It wouldnt have been the same if I had kids earlier.Since I am not struggling to make a career now,I will always be available to my kids and have time to attend their birthdays every year,"she says.
HIGH TOLERANCE
Mature women also develop a higher tolerance level for their children."Women become a wiser and a patient parent as they mature,"says Dr Shah.
CONS
DECREASED FERTILITY
Dr Shah gives a rough low down on how fertility diminishes with age.She says,"If you take 100 women under the age of 30 and ask them to have sex for a year with their husbands,chances are 70 per cent of them will get pregnant.Take same number of women of age 35 years,and 60 per cent will get pregnant.At 37 years,the rate will be at 47 per cent.At 40 years,it will be 20 per cent and at 44,it will be hard to conceive.
LONGER TIME TO CONCEIVE
The ovaries produce few eggs at an
older age.So it takes much longer to
become pregnant beyond 40-42
years.
COMPLICATION WITH BABYS HEALTH
Because of a decline in a mothers health,premature delivery resulting in weak babies,stillbirths,miscarriages
and risk of type-1 diabetes and high
blood pressure developing in the
baby are high.
TIPS TO HAVE HEALTHY BABIES
1
If you are already 35 years old and don't have a spouse yet,the best thing to do is go to a gynaecologist and freeze your eggs.This will give you a better chance to get pregnant with you own egg instead of relying on a donor's,when you find a suitable partner.
2
Live a healthy lifestyle and exercise regularly.Cut down on smoking as it leads to premature menopause.
3
Most unmarried working women today are sexually active in their 30s.Many of them have abortions because they are not ready for the child yet.A series of abortions can damage the fallopian tubes beyond repair,thereby harming the chances of later getting pregnant.Abortions also increase the chance of internal surgical injuries affecting the fertility.
4
Women should not consider emergency contraceptive pills,such as I-pill,as a regular contraceptive,cautions Dr Shah."They are not meant to be consumed every time you have unprotected sex,but only for emergency situations,as they can cause severe side effects.